{"id":288155,"date":"2023-08-28T19:35:11","date_gmt":"2023-08-28T19:35:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sportslifetale.com\/?p=288155"},"modified":"2023-08-28T19:35:11","modified_gmt":"2023-08-28T19:35:11","slug":"holt-football-stuck-in-cycle-of-self-destructive-denial","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sportslifetale.com\/soccer\/holt-football-stuck-in-cycle-of-self-destructive-denial\/","title":{"rendered":"HOLT: Football stuck in cycle of self-destructive denial"},"content":{"rendered":"
An hour or so before the home game with Nottingham Forest on Saturday, a Manchester United official sat down next to me in the press room at Old Trafford and began to explain everything that was wrong with a critical piece I had written about the club\u2019s handling of the Mason Greenwood affair.<\/p>\n
Greenwood, you will recall, was recorded saying \u2018I don\u2019t give a **** what you want, you little ****\u2019 to a woman who said she didn\u2019t want to have sex with him. \u2018Push me again and watch what happens to you,\u2019 he says later in the exchange. He was later charged with attempted rape, coercive behaviour and assault.<\/p>\n
The charges were dropped when witnesses withdrew and \u2018new material\u2019 emerged in the months that followed. United writhed and squirmed and prepared to announce Greenwood was to be reintegrated into their squad.<\/p>\n
Then, as a result of excellent and persistent journalism by Adam Crafton at The Athletic, the news was leaked and a public outcry, largely from the vast majority of decent United fans, forced the club into changing its mind and saying Greenwood would not play for them again.<\/p>\n
What had happened to Greenwood was a tragedy, the United official said. It was a tragedy for the player, a tragedy for his family and a tragedy for football. He said money \u2013 specifically the potential loss of a lot of it – had never, ever, ever been a consideration in United\u2019s internal discussions about whether to restore the player to their squad.<\/p>\n
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A Man United official described what happened to Mason Greenwood as a ‘tragedy’<\/p>\n
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Luis Rubiales (right) has been portrayed as a noble man brought down by false statements in amid the controversy of his forced kiss with Spain World Cup winner Jennifer Hermoso\u00a0<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t say \u2018pull the other one, it\u2019s got bells on\u2019. But I wanted to.<\/p>\n
All things considered, he said, it would have been far better if I had written, as others had done, that United should have been allowed to manage Greenwood\u2019s rehabilitation themselves rather than abandoning him to his fate and waiting for someone else to carry his baggage.<\/p>\n
Let us leave aside for a moment the fact that United, like other clubs, routinely cast aside scores of young players who do not have Greenwood\u2019s talent, or worth, and either pass them on to other clubs or leave them on football\u2019s scrapheap.<\/p>\n
Their argument about a duty of care to Greenwood is specious, disingenuous and cynical. It bleeds into the vein of misogyny that runs through the game and which has been reinforced by United\u2019s appalling mismanagement of the Greenwood case.<\/p>\n
There is an obvious theme here, which links the Greenwood affair closely with the ongoing furore surrounding the behaviour of Luis Rubiales, the president of the Spanish football federation, and his forced kiss with midfielder Jenni Hermoso in the immediate aftermath of Spain\u2019s Women\u2019s World Cup victory over England in Sydney earlier this month.<\/p>\n
It is a narrative, not peculiar to football but particularly prevalent in it, which persistently attempts to portray the man as the victim. Even now, football does not encourage men to take responsibility for violence towards women. It would be more accurate to say it lionises them for it. It certainly seeks others to blame.<\/p>\n
It happened with Greenwood when it was reported that the United women\u2019s team was to be consulted about his future and its players were then, predictably, deluged with foul abuse on social media and blamed for his fate before it was even clear what decision would be taken.<\/p>\n
And it has happened, even more obviously, with Rubiales, who has been portrayed by the Spanish football federation(RFEF) as a noble man brought down by the statements of a lying, conniving, strumpet who is too weak to know her own mind.<\/p>\n
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The cases of Greenwood (Left) and Rubiales (right) shows football is in a cycle of denial\u00a0 and a narrative – not peculiar to football – that portrays the man as the victim<\/p>\n
The Spanish federation\u2019s version of events in Sydney is perilously close to the old nod and a wink idea that \u2018she was asking for it\u2019. She wanted it, really, and now she\u2019s just trying to cover her tracks. It\u2019s a familiar pattern of accusation.<\/p>\n
Rubiales said grabbing Hermoso\u2019s head and planting a kiss on her lips during the post-match medal ceremony was a consensual act. She said it was not. She said she was pressured by the RFEF into putting her name to a statement exonerating Rubiales and refused. That should be the end of that particular argument and yet the attacks on her continue.<\/p>\n
The narrative was fed on Monday by the news that Rubiales\u2019 mother had gone on hunger strike and locked herself in the Divina Pastora church in the town of Motril in Granada, citing the \u201cunwarranted, inhumane and bloodthirsty hunt\u201d of her son.<\/p>\n
The image of Rubiales as victim and Hermoso as villain was reinforced by Rubiales\u2019 cousin, Vanesa Ruiz Bejar, who spoke outside the church. \u2018Jenni, say the truth,\u2019 Bejar said. \u2018Why has she changed her version three times?<\/p>\n
\u2018We have suffered a lot, we have had to leave our homes because of the harassment we\u2019re suffering. We want to be left alone and see justice done and we want this woman to tell the truth. Jenni, tell the truth.\u2019<\/p>\n
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Rubiales says planting a kiss on Hermoso was a consensual act – something the player denies\u00a0<\/p>\n
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Hermoso has almost been portrayed as a villain with the Spanish football federation threatening to take legal action saying she lied about not giving consent to Rubiales<\/p>\n
It\u2019s not just Rubiales\u2019 family, sadly, who are behaving like this. It\u2019s his football family, too. It\u2019s the goons from Spanish football \u2014 including the men\u2019s national team manager, Luis de la Fuente – who applauded from the audience as Rubiales made his pathetic grandstanding speech last week repeating over and over again that he refused to resign.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s the Spanish football federation, which ignored the complaints of tens of players about the culture sponsored by women\u2019s manager Jorge Vilda and which is threatening to take legal action against Hermoso because it says she is lying about not giving consent to Rubiales for his kiss.<\/p>\n
Look at the way United and the Spanish football federation have acted, the way they insist on portraying men who abuse women as victims, and it is hard not to think that football is only just entering the foothills of its attempts to drag itself out of the dark ages.<\/p>\n
Spain have just won the World Cup but the women\u2019s achievement has been sullied by men. What should have been a celebration has turned into a reckoning instead, with a governing body saying it will sue one of its heroines for telling the truth.<\/p>\n
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United prepared to announce that Greenwood was to be reintegrated only to back down following a public outcry following reports of his potential return to the fold at Old Trafford<\/p>\n
\u2018We have to always be extraordinary,\u2019 America Ferrera\u2019s character, Gloria, says in the Barbie movie, \u2018but somehow we\u2019re always doing it wrong\u2026<\/p>\n
\u2018You have to answer for men\u2019s bad behaviour, which is insane, but if you point that out, you\u2019re accused of complaining\u2026And it turns out in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong, but also everything is your fault.\u2019<\/p>\n
Some have condemned Barbie for being too simplistic and too forthright in its observations on a patriarchy but, as part of its wider aim, it painted an uncannily accurate portrait of the dinosaur attitudes that still exist across much of the football world.<\/p>\n
Until the game recognises that portraying men as victims for committing violence against women is shamefully indefensible, it will be stuck in the cycle of self-destructive, raging denial that grips it still and which is causing it incalculable damage<\/p>\n
BBC chief culprits in cheerleading fad\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It is sad to observe how the BBC have become the chief culprits in the fad of filming their commentators and analysts cheering and leaping and hollering and gurning as they watch sporting events play out in front of them.\u00a0<\/p>\n The latest example was the World Athletics Championships in Budapest where any pretence of journalistic detachment or objective commentary was joyfully and recklessly abandoned in the pursuit of showing us just how much they want their mates to win.\u00a0<\/p>\n I\u2019m sorry but if I wanted to watch antics like that, I\u2019d queue up for the Wembley Boxpark and gaze around at people hurling beer over each other. It\u2019s bad enough having to listen to the prehistoric lad-banter championed by the relentlessly amused Mark Chapman on 5live without being subjected to this empty-headed idiocy, too.<\/p>\n The BBC has some brilliant journalists \u2013 they deserve better than being represented by the cheerleaders with microphones that were put on show in Hungary.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n The BBC showed they are chief culprits in the fad of filming their commentators cheering during the World Athletics Championships (UK’s 4x400metres relay team pictured)<\/p>\n Hammers delight\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I\u2019m delighted that West Ham have made such a brilliant start to the season and particularly delighted for David Moyes, their manager, who struck a blow for his talent and his reputation when his team outplayed the Brighton of Roberto de Zerbi, a team and a manager who anyone who loves the game has come to admire.\u00a0<\/p>\n There was just one sour note: when Lucas Paqueta fell to the ground clutching his face, after James Milner\u2019s arm brushed against his arm, he escaped unpunished.<\/p>\n Amid all the debate about changed rules, I\u2019d like to see Paqueta hit with a retrospective three-game ban for what he did. Cheating like that has no place in the game.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Lucas Paqueta clutched his face after brushing arms with Brighton’s James Milner on Saturday<\/p>\n